Divorce is a frightening concept for many couples, especially if there are children involved. It will not only break up you and your partner but the life that you have created together. You will have to figure out where each of you will live, where the children will live, and when, who gets what; it can be overwhelming to just think about it, which is why many couples put it off and live through it. Nevertheless, if your partner has become increasingly difficult to live with and you have found yourself considering divorce, it is a sign that the two of you need to have a talk, at the very least.
If you are still unsure whether you should get a divorce, or simply need to talk things through with your partner, then this guide will help you to figure it out.
- You Argue ALL the Time
Small arguments here and there are natural for anyone who is living together and spending a lot of time with their partner. What is not normal, however, is regular arguments that leave both of you upset with each other. If you and your partner get on each other’s nerves regularly, and the smallest things can set off a huge argument, then this is a big sign that you two aren’t getting on as well as you should be, or you used to.
- You Don’t Want to Spend Time Together
Every relationship is built on time spent together. If you and your spouse are always doing different things to get out of each other’s way and to avoid spending time together, then there is an obvious rift that needs to be addressed. Time apart is needed for any marriage, or else it can become stifling, but if you are actively avoiding each other, then this is a sign that you want to be apart.
- You Have Different Ideas for the Future
Having differing goals in your career and on your bucket lists is natural for any couple since no person is the same, but when you are spending your life with someone, your ideas for the future need to line up somewhat, or you both need to make compromises. If you are in the early stages of your marriage and children, or more children, are what you see in your future, but your partner doesn’t agree, then you need to have a serious discussion about your future together. Children are a big responsibility, and you cannot force someone else to have a child just because you want to, or force someone not to have a child if you don’t want one. If you are holding each other back from your dreams and goals, then this is a big sign that you are not right for each other, and you should consider contacting family lawyers for advice.
Divorce is a big decision. You must talk thoroughly with your partner before you decide if this is the right way to go for you.