Going through a divorce? This will be a traumatic and upsetting process to go through particularly when you have kids. You hear of many children struggling heavily when their parents separate, and it impacting many areas of their life even into adulthood, but this does not have to be the case. When you know how to support your children during this time, it can help them to manage their emotions and even come out the other side a more compassionate, mature, and understanding person. With this in mind, here are a few tips for helping your children to manage your divorce.
1. Be Honest
One of the most important steps to take is to be honest with your children. You need to explain to them that you are separating and what this means but you should also shield them from anything which could upset them. Make sure that they understand that it is in no way their fault and that it will not impact how much you both love them.
2. Avoid Arguments In Front Of Them
It can be incredibly distressing to see your parents argue when you are a child. It is for this reason why you must avoid any arguments in front of them and also avoid any legal talk when they are in the room. Try to remain civil for the sake of the kids, and it will make the process much easier for all and provide a good foundation for the future. It is also important not to speak negatively about your partner in front of them.
3. Minimize Disruption To Their Routine
Kids thrive on routine so you need to try and keep the same routine as best you can. This should involve getting up at the same time, having the same journey to school, after-school activities, and the same bedtime each night. There will, of course, be changes to manage, but for the time being, you need to keep everything as normal as possible.
4. Listen To Their Concerns
Although this will be a highly challenging and emotional time for you, you must also think about your child’s concerns. Take the time to listen to what they are worried about when you separate and try to reassure them as best you can. Children need to feel valued and listened to no matter what is happening, so do not forget this during the process.
5. Speak To Family Law Solicitors
Speaking to experienced family law solicitors is an important step because they can help to resolve divorce issues as swiftly and effectively as possible with compassionate advice. Good family law solicitors will know how to make the process as easy to manage as possible while keeping the kids in mind which can make a big difference to the divorce process as well as what the future holds for the children.
It is vital that you know how to support your children through a divorce as it can be a highly traumatic and even scarring experience if you are not careful. These tips should help you to support your kids through the divorce and make the process as painless as possible for all. By keeping them informed about everything and encouraging them to be open and honest, you are going to ensure that despite the circumstances of your marriage, you are still bringing up a kind and thoughtful child.
Anna Marikar, mum of four and seasoned blogger, has spent over a decade sharing her parenting journey and passion for kid-friendly crafts and free printables.
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