Contributor: Our guest writer Kira Browdy
When I will turn 50, I know that for my mom I will still be a child. As a mom, I can say the same thing about my children, just like billions of moms from all over the world. However, there are such moms who over care about their children especially when the question comes to their personal life. For instance, once a mom found out that her son is chatting with a girl on a dating site. She was against it even when their relationship got to the stage of engaging.
What I want to say by giving this example is that in every parent-child relationship there comes a time when we should just let them go. I mean the period when they have to make their own decisions and be responsible for them. Of course, at first, it will be difficult for both of you but this is a natural necessity.
Just recall that time when your son/daughter was a toddler. You gave the best of you to provide him/her the best clothes, the best education and, of course, all your love. You gave the best part of your soul to your child. So now, you have to be the first person who will totally trust and support your child.
Looking back, even we, as grown-ups, have to admit the mistakes we have done. But these mistakes taught us to be wiser. The same way has to be passed by our children; it is a normal flow of life. So there is no exact method to protect your child from the same mistakes. All you can do is give a piece of advice and hold a friendly talk, but nothing more. Now he/she is the one to decide, because it’s his/her life and not your common anymore.
You might ask how to know for sure when the time for “separation” has come. There is no right or wrong answer. Your mother’s heart will tell you. It depends on your relationship.
Remember that your desire to overprotect your child can do only harm to both of you and even destroy your relationship for the rest of your lives. If you want your child to be happy (you do want this, for sure), you should let him/her make own choices and step in only when your help is required.
I know that when your child gets to the point of building a relationship it’s difficult to agree with his/her choice, just because in a mother’s view nobody is worth her child. In this case, you’d better ask yourself whether you will be happier to see your child single. The answer would be “no”, for sure.
By the way, you should know that in such a big town as London isn’t always easy to find your love so if he/she chooses London dating online you should support his/her decision. The decision of a grown-up child.